My Dress (and other pieces from our wedding day)

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I keep meaning to write this post and 5 months on, here we are!

Below is one of my favourite photos from our big day. I’m so excited and happy and coming downstairs to finally tie the knot with the love of my life.  The shot also captures all of the beautiful lace and details on my gown.

 

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I’ve written before about my wedding dress and the process I took to find it. Stressful, let me say!

Sometimes the experience is just not all girliness and tears and a special time with your mother and/or sisters and friends. Sometimes you can only take along one bridesmaid, and you just try stuff on in a sale, decide, and buy.  The lovely Helen came along when we found my dress.  And there it is!

 

 

I always wanted lace. I’m a pretty old-fashioned kinda girl and I was enchanted by the idea of finding something very delicate and classic.  I needed straps or small sleeves, a train, a good fit at the waist to give me shape, and for it to be cream or ivory, not white. Above and below are shots from the maker of my dress, Alfred Angelo #2440.  I was taken by the train, the cap sleeves (no sleeveless for me), the beauty of the lace, and the low back:

 

 

Helen got a shot of me leaving the shop clutching my dress in a bag on our way to the pub and it’s pretty cute. Maybe I’ll ask her to share it one day.

 

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Searching veils on Etsy, I discovered that I really liked the style of the mantilla veils, and wanted to bring the lace in from my dress. I found a veil online for a ridiculously-cheap price, and was startled when it arrived to find that the shade of ivory and the style of the lace was identical to my dress. A definite win.

 

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Another thing I wanted to do was to embellish the belt a bit. It came with a simple ivory satin belt, and I wanted to add a bit of sparkle to it.  I ended up finding a sparkle applique from John Lewis and then I sewed it onto my belt myself!  They have a pretty good DIY wedding section.  I don’t have any close-up pictures of my belt, but the best view of it is in the above shot with my parents.

 

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I think if I never have another day in my life when I feel this beautiful, I’ll be perfectly okay with it! I have to thank my wonderful team – if you’re getting married in the Wairarapa, they are highly recommended!  I used Beneath the Veil (Nicole) for our hair – Nicole took my request and made it even better (so retro!), Latasha at Alluminus in Greytown for our stunning but natural makeup, my dreamy flowers (below) were by the lovely Mindy at Twig & Arrow (she whipped up an extra buttonhole on the day, on the spot!), and our amazing cake (also below) was by Sweet Bakery & Cakery (Karori).

 

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My shoes were custom-made for me by Christy Ng Shoes (Malaysia). I found them on Etsy originally, and their customer service/turnaround time is amazing. I love my shoes so much and they are hands down the most comfortable heels I own.

 

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And finally, all of our decorations and accessories were found on Amazon. Seriously. Cheap and cheerful and easy! If you want to know about anything in particular, let me know.  The Mr & Mrs letters were plain and I painted them with a test pot!

 

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I’ll write a more sentimental rundown of the day at some stage, too, but just know it really was incredibly special and everything we hoped for.  We only wish we were both from the same place, so more of our friends and family from Edinburgh could have joined us. We didn’t want to exclude them in any way and we missed them!  Our Edinburgh party was fun but disappointing in a few ways (so many things went wrong sadly and I wish it was able to be a bit more special).  But this was our choice and we couldn’t have wished for a better location/day/vendors.

 

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I also want to give a special shout-out to our incredible photographer, Mary Sylvia.  Mary went out of her way (so above and beyond) to give us an amazing set of photos that we will treasure forever.  We said from the start that photography was always going to be a top priority in our budget, and we are so glad we chose her. She captures your day without being intrusive and caught so many emotions and special moments. She has a wonderful talent and we love our photos so much.

 

 

…xxx

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5 things the wedding magazines don’t tell you

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1.  So, apparently freaking out over trying to lose a bunch of weight to fit into a dress (that you subsequently find too tight after dinner on your wedding night and end up busting the zip open hugging people) leads to what I would like to call the “Post-Wedding 15” as in, well, all the weight I lost for the wedding I put back on with fast food in about 3 months. Go me! I’ve always been an overachiever.  And stubborn. Take my bad food away, I’ll go back to it with a vengeance.

2.  Did you know that Wedding Ring Eczema is a thing? So apparently if you’re not used to wearing 2 rings together (and they’re on the small side to begin with after the aforementioned weight gain), you can develop eczema under your rings if you don’t dry/air out your fingers enough. So take those rings off at night, ladies, and dry your hands properly after the bathroom.

And then when you go on honeymoon in Italy for 2 weeks where it’s 32-37C every day, your weird finger eczema gets way worse and then kinda scars and turns very red and you can’t wear your rings very much anymore. It’s healing, but hey. No one warned me about this! (Hydrocortisone cream and tea tree oil help a lot!)

 

 

3.  You’ll kinda get the blues. Like, the wedding was an incredibly expensive and stressful hassle but your life suddenly is devoid of something huge to focus you and you’re just left with the debt and the photos and need to find a new purpose. Other people are engaged now. Move on.

4.  Time suddenly has no meaning. Like, I got married? What the heck happened. I spent all that time wanting to be engaged and then wanting to get married, and now it seems like a million years ago and bam I have this husband and what. I feel like I just woke up. It’s wonderful but it’s so surreal that this has happened in my life already.

 

 

5.  The little things from the wedding stay with you the most. I’ll never forget the looks on the faces of my uncles, who aren’t people you can usually get to dance, up on the floor. Such a mix of delight and terror and confusion. This is what I call ceilidh face, and I’m so glad they experienced it.  I’ll never forget my darling Chris singing as we signed the license.  I’ll never forget the photobooth, or the fire alarm going off during Dave’s speech, or being carried across the threshold. These are the stories for your kids and grandkids.

 

What surprised you about/after your wedding day?

 

…xxx

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The dress

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Soon after my last post, I had two appointments booked in with bridal boutiques, had rounded up my Edinburgh girls, and was going to have good fun trying on dresses and chatting and ooh and ahhing.  I looked forward to the really girly day.

And then the boutique I had previously visited announced that they were closing down.

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I’d tried on a dress in there before that I quite liked (see above) – the Alfred Angelo 2430, and it was £1000, which was pushing my budget but do-able if I was paying it off.  I planned to go back on Saturday after the appointments and see if I still liked it (if I hadn’t found anything else in the appointments), but decided that if this sale was going on, I better check it out!  A quick look on Facebook revealed it was now £400 which, if you’re getting/have gotten married, you know is insane.

So we made a rush trip to the store last Thursday. I grabbed 4 dresses I had seen on the sale listings and tried the first two on – pretty but not for me.  And then thinking that I was still super keen on the 2430 above, I left it til last, and tried on another.

Which was the dress.  I mean, I tried on the 2430 again and I did like it. I like the back, I like the lace a lot, I liked the belt. But the one I picked was even better.

I’ll tell you a few sneaky details – it’s ivory, still lacy, still has a belt, but it also has a train. Which is so romantic and dreamy.  The sample I bought is sliiiiiightly too small (like, I need to lose maybe 3-5lb to get it fully zipped) and I’ll need to adjust a few things, but what bride doesn’t? And it’s not the same style as the 2430. But that’s all the info you get!

 

 

 

It’s in my closet, folded up, but I’ll soon be whisking it away to live at someone else’s house for while. I trust Dave, but I still want to make sure he doesn’t see it!  I’m old-school that way.  I’ll then take it in for adjustments in the new year.

(Oh, and it was £500!)

I took just Helen along with me, and we had a celebratory drink afterwards.  It was a different experience than the one I’d always thought about, but it was still great, and I’m so pleased with the dress!

Thanks again for the lovely comments/tweets/notes about my last post – I really appreciated it. I felt better immediately after posting it: I think I just needed to get it out.  I can’t wait for everyone to see my dress in April, and am so excited now about being a bride.

 

…xxx

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