5 things the wedding magazines don’t tell you

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1.  So, apparently freaking out over trying to lose a bunch of weight to fit into a dress (that you subsequently find too tight after dinner on your wedding night and end up busting the zip open hugging people) leads to what I would like to call the “Post-Wedding 15” as in, well, all the weight I lost for the wedding I put back on with fast food in about 3 months. Go me! I’ve always been an overachiever.  And stubborn. Take my bad food away, I’ll go back to it with a vengeance.

2.  Did you know that Wedding Ring Eczema is a thing? So apparently if you’re not used to wearing 2 rings together (and they’re on the small side to begin with after the aforementioned weight gain), you can develop eczema under your rings if you don’t dry/air out your fingers enough. So take those rings off at night, ladies, and dry your hands properly after the bathroom.

And then when you go on honeymoon in Italy for 2 weeks where it’s 32-37C every day, your weird finger eczema gets way worse and then kinda scars and turns very red and you can’t wear your rings very much anymore. It’s healing, but hey. No one warned me about this! (Hydrocortisone cream and tea tree oil help a lot!)

 

 

3.  You’ll kinda get the blues. Like, the wedding was an incredibly expensive and stressful hassle but your life suddenly is devoid of something huge to focus you and you’re just left with the debt and the photos and need to find a new purpose. Other people are engaged now. Move on.

4.  Time suddenly has no meaning. Like, I got married? What the heck happened. I spent all that time wanting to be engaged and then wanting to get married, and now it seems like a million years ago and bam I have this husband and what. I feel like I just woke up. It’s wonderful but it’s so surreal that this has happened in my life already.

 

 

5.  The little things from the wedding stay with you the most. I’ll never forget the looks on the faces of my uncles, who aren’t people you can usually get to dance, up on the floor. Such a mix of delight and terror and confusion. This is what I call ceilidh face, and I’m so glad they experienced it.  I’ll never forget my darling Chris singing as we signed the license.  I’ll never forget the photobooth, or the fire alarm going off during Dave’s speech, or being carried across the threshold. These are the stories for your kids and grandkids.

 

What surprised you about/after your wedding day?

 

…xxx

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Our Italian Adventure

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Sadly we’re not flying Air New Zealand. But it seemed appropriate.

 

Tomorrow, pals, we’re going to Italy!

Rome, then Florence, Cinque Terre, Lucca, and Venice.  It’s our long awaited honeymoon.

I’m so excited, but so, so tired from getting my work prepared to be without me and getting all of the trip planned and together (if it was up to Dave we wouldn’t have anything booked yet!).

I can’t wait to share our trip with you – make sure to check out my instagram if you want to follow along!

 

 

I promise to write and share pictures when I get back mid-August.  Have a great 2 weeks!

 

 

…xxx

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Unloading.

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I don’t have a lot to say and yet I have a lot to say, pals. There’s a lot going on as always, and my head is always full, but there’s not a lot I can just publicly unload here. I’d love to unload.. and the times I get with close friends where I feel I can say anything, I clam up and I either completely undersell everything as no big deal, or I just don’t want to talk about me any more.

I just feel like I’m doing everything wrong. You know when you get to that point as an adult where you’re always second guessing every decision you make? I hate it when I see others who so obviously do not have their shit together, because I’m so used to having my shit together and I want everyone else to feel on top of it, but I just don’t feel on top of it right now. Between work, home, health, family.. it all feels like it’s unravelling.

I love journalling privately, and I have been doing a bit of that, and always talking to my husband, but I just don’t know what to say publicly. I feel like I am a writer, and I am a blogger and I am a sharer, but I have these periods where I just want to run away from sharing. And it’s not always about me, it’s often about others who don’t give permission to have their lives detailed online or for my thoughts about how things affect me to be on here. And sometimes life is just private and to be kept between those you love.

 

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The gist of it is that I just feel.. stressed and like that stress is seeping into everything: making me sick, making me tired, making me cranky, making me awkward, making everything suck. And I know some things that will fix it, but it’s just not that easy to fix.  I just have to take things as they come and try not to let everything overwhelm me.

(There are great online forums to talk your shit out, y’all.  Seek ’em out. There are some pretty amazing strangers in this world.)

We have 4 weeks til our Italian honeymoon and I think that is helping to hold me together just now. After it? I’m not sure. I need to find a focus point; I need a way of calming and controlling my life again. And I think getting a plan in place is the only way.  I am a master planner.

No comments required, no sympathy wanted..!  Just unloading.

 

 

…xxx

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Still alive…

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Just keeping on trucking.

 

 

I’ve been writing in a private journal every day. Cause it’s good to get out work frustrations and personal thoughts but they’re not really right for here. But hi!  I’ll be back at some point soon. The days are longer, the evenings are busier, and hopefully summer is on its way (I got hailed on today).

 

 

 

…xxx

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Currently

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I thought I’d get back into one of these posts, cause it’s been a while!
 Room changes 

Reading:   I’m back to Game of Thrones (A Dance with Dragons and A Feast For Crows in machete order) as the show started again and geez, it’s going ahead of me and I don’t like that.

Thinking about:  Our honeymoon!  We’ve booked 2 weeks in Italy in August and I can’t wait.  Rome, Florence, Cinque Terre, Lucca, and Venice.  So exciting!  We booked a tour yesterday from Florence as well so we’ll get to Pisa, San Gimignano, and Siena as well.

Listening to:  After spending months building our wedding playlist, it’s nice not thinking that hard about it, so I’ve just been shuffling everything at the moment. It’s nice. And podcasts! I’m still so into podcasts.  As you may remember I’m really into The Complete Guide to Everything, but I’ve also become a bit obsessed with The X Files Files, of course.


 Us, Singapore 


Watching:  Well GoT is back as I said, and I’ve started re-watching The Walking Dead as a lot of my other shows have been wrapping up.  We’ve also been binge-watching Last Week Tonight as while we’d seen the clips, we’d not seen whole eps, so that’s fun. John Oliver is so charming.

Trying:  To be cleaner. Our place is a mess. And to get my name changed everywhere! What a rigmarole. I needed my passport to change things so that’s done, just waited on my marriage certs to arrive, and then I can do my BRP, driving license etc etc.  Cards are being changed, and all of the online stuff is done.  It’s really kinda weird but also very nice. We got a new nameplate for the door!

 

 


Loving:  Being married.  It hasn’t changed much, but it’s special.

Celebrating:  It’s the weekend!  Getting back into work was tough, y’all.  I’ve had a sinus cold for the last few days so I’ve missed some time, but I’m getting back into the swing of things.

Making me happy:  Dave, chocolate, my friends having babies, spring, and writing.

Wedding and other posts to come soon.
…xxx

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Mrs Lawrie

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Hello, lovelies.

 

 

I’m a married lady.

 

 

 

And it was wonderful.

 

 

I’m sorry I haven’t written. In the lead up to the wedding I had so much to say, but I just was beside myself with stress.  When I actually arrived in New Zealand, a lot of that had dissipated, but it was a crazy time.

It’s hard to believe it’s been 2.5 weeks since the big day – it feels like I’ve been back at work forever.  My name has changed everywhere around me at the office, and I’m in the process of completing a gazillion forms and processes to get it changed everywhere else.  I’m committed to it, though.

Life has ticked on and not a lot has changed for us – but we do talk about our day still and look forward to celebrating our marriage again in June with Edinburgh family and friends.

 

 

 

I love my husband, and I’m so excited to call him that. He is my one and only, my happy spark, the best part of my day.

 

More photos to come soon.

 

…xxx

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Hen Party – Edinburgh

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On the last weekend of February I had my first Hen Party.  Being an International Woman, I’m being treated to a few!

My Edinburgh-based bridesmaid, Helen, organised a really fun weekend with all of my favourite local women.

 

 

And of course in my typical style, I Instagrammed a lot of it!  Above is the cake that Helen put together – in my favourite shades, with a fabulous drunk Ariel on top. Hilariously, as I’d curled my hair on Friday night, my hair did end up resembling her on Saturday morning…

 

 

What’s a hen without a few penis marshmallows?

We spent Friday night playing Mr & Mrs, where I ended up drinking shots or taking forfeits, and as I got drunker, I got more answers wrong.. and you know where this is going.

 

 

By the end of the night I was too drunk to sit upright, and ended up being very gently put to bed. I was not a well woman in the morning.

 

 

But after a bit of sleep and some heavily-applied makeup, I was ready for part two.  Afternoon tea at The Tower restaurant! Swanky.  We were also joined by wee Elsie:

 

 

And I like this shot of me and Charly:

 

 

Then we moved on to Paradise Palms, which is actually a pretty awesome joint. We had an excellent waitress and after some fries, I started to feel pretty good. We were also joined by a work friend for a drink or two and played some dirty Pictionary (Dicktionary!) invented by Charly.  She has an impressive knowledge of terms I’d never heard of.

 

After a wee bit there, we moved on to Las Iguanas for an amazing Mexican feast.

 

 

 

And then, karaoke!  Finally, we ended Saturday on the dance floor.

 

 

Sunday we topped off the weekend with a very late brunch, where we were joined by another wee baby pal, Meriel.

 

 

All in all, it was a fantastic weekend and I felt very special. It was so great to have my favourite women join me for the silliness and chat.

 

 

 

…xxx

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